Just Too Picky?

I’ve heard it a million times.  And each time I cringe…

“You are just too picky.”  “You need to lower your standards a bit.”  “You have unrealistic expectations.”

These statements have zero applicability.  It has nothing to do with being picky, having high standards or outrageous expectations.

In fact, it has everything to do with having the strength to continue looking.  To believe that you will find the person who has similar wants and needs in life… similar goals, not expectations or standards.

 It takes a strong person to admit, hey this is just not what I’m looking for.  It is not you, it truly is me. Lesser people just do the ‘slow fade”….

We have somehow forgotten how to communicate this.

I blame Snapchat…. when you’ve gone from phone conversations to texting to finally only communicating through Snapchat…. you know it was a “slow fade”.

It takes strength to get past the wondering, will he/she call? Is he/she just busy? Was it a “slow fade”?

It takes strength to continue going on those awkward first dates.  It takes strength to continue opening up.

To say, hey this is me, take it or leave it.

It takes a strong person to be continually asked, 50 times at one wedding,  and answer yes I’m here by myself.  And thoroughly enjoying myself, might I add! Please get over it.

To those who are still looking, I applaud your strength.

You are not picky.  Your standards are not too high.  Your expectations are not unrealistic.  You are simply just still looking.

Cheers to you! Now I’m off to Rock the Garden and continue looking 🙂

Agree or Disagree? 


10 thoughts on “Just Too Picky?

  1. I agree with this SO MUCH. I don’t know how many times I’ve been told I’m too picky or have unrealistic expectations. I used to let that get to me and then I finally just stopped caring what other people think. I was in an unhappy relationship for four years – I refuse to settle ever again. I’m glad you feel the same way and I’m not the only crazy out there willing to wait. 🙂

  2. Agree. I wouldn’t want someone to “settle” for me either! It isn’t fair to either person. Love passionately… Especially yourself! That’s what I’m learning.

  3. I was single for 3.5 years before I met my current boyfriend of now 5 years. It took A LOT of really really really bad dates and going out and meeting people to find him so don’t stop looking for what you truly want and truly deserve <3 <3

  4. oh my gosh, i TOTALLY agree! i feel like you’re describing the past year of my life. stay strong girl!!
    also let me know how you like the lulu dress you ordered – i think it’s so cute! i hope you love it!

  5. oh gosh, this is gorgeous, and so, so true. it’s important to have standards and to be comfortable being alone so that you don’t hold onto something that isn’t right for you. well said.

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